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The International #1 bestselling book by award-winning New Zealand parenting educator Jacqlin Richards.
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This book is not about perfect parenting. It is about becoming a more aware, resourced, and truthful human being, so our children inherit more freedom than fear.
Jacqlin Richards has made a bold and important contribution to the parenting conversation.
When a parent changes the place they are parenting from, the child receives a different world. That is the quiet revolution inside this book.
This book has dirt under its fingernails. It has tears in it. It has laughter in it. It has the quality of someone who has entered her own fire and returned with something useful.
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One of the core ideas from the International #1 bestselling book...
Most parents don't realise they're not just reacting in the moment - they're reliving the past.
We're told to be patient, get it right, and raise "good kids." But beneath the pressure, guilt, and constant second-guessing, something deeper is impacting the way we parent.
"Your kid isn't the problem. What's driving you is."
"Your kid isn't the problem.
What's driving you is."
Inherited beliefs, emotional conditioning, unconscious reactions, and nervous-system survival states are keeping old patterns repeating, no matter how much we "know better."
You can’t raise resourced kids
from an unresourced state.
You can’t raise resourced kids from an unresourced state.
This is a different way.
Not more strategies. Not more pressure.
A no-BS path back to yourself.
F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour: The Truth About Parenting (And Being Parented) cuts through the noise of modern parenting and goes straight to the core of what's actually going on.
From survival to connection.
From lead to gold.
This is the shift from reaction to relationship.
Now helping parents around the world through the International #1 bestselling book, workshops and live events.
A different way.
Not more strategies. Not more pressure.
A no-BS path back to yourself.
F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour: The Truth About Parenting (And Being Parented) cuts through the noise of modern parenting and goes straight to the core of what's actually going on.
From survival to connection.
From lead to gold.
This is the shift from reaction to relationship.
Now helping parents around the world through the International #1 bestselling book, workshops and live events.
This book isn't about fixing your children.
It's about understanding yourself so you can show up differently with them.
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
Parents who want to enjoy their children and the life they're creating together.
Parents who want to understand themselves more deeply, so they can understand their children more fully.
Parents who are open to growth, curiosity, and new possibilities.
Parents who want to parent with greater awareness, grace, humour, and humanity.
Parents who are ready to trust themselves more and pressure themselves less.
Parents who want deeper relationships, not perfect ones.
Parents who want to raise resilient humans by becoming more resourced themselves.
Parents who are ready to experience more peace, freedom, and joy in parenting.
Parents who want to understand how they were parented, so they can parent with greater awareness and intention.
WHO THIS BOOK IS NOT FOR
Parents looking for a formula to guarantee perfectly behaved children.
Parents who want quick fixes without self-reflection.
Parents who believe parenting is only about changing their child’s behaviour or controlling their own.
Parents looking for another parenting rulebook.
Parents who want certainty more than curiosity.
Parents who want parenting strategies without personal growth.
Parents looking for a formula to guarantee perfectly behaved children.
Parents who want quick fixes without self-reflection.
Parents who believe parenting is only about changing their child’s behaviour or controlling their own.
Parents looking for another parenting rulebook.
Parents who want certainty more than curiosity.
Parents who want parenting strategies without personal growth.
This book is not for parents looking for someone else to blame.
It is for parents who are willing to understand themselves.
This book is for parents who are willing to understand themselves. It is not for parents looking for someone else to blame.
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This book could easily be called Parenting By Magic. It's about breaking free of the uphill battle that is the old, stuck, unimaginative, mechanical paradigm of controlling behaviour - your own and your children’s. It invites you to be guided by the wisdom of your heart in serving the highest good and potential of everyone in the family.
Jacqlin Richards is one of the most conscious and dedicated educators I’ve ever met. If you let her guide you on this journey, your life will change, and the people you love will feel the difference.
Jacqlin Richards forges into exciting new territory with F_ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour, a trailblazing book that invites parents to understand themselves better so they can support their children more effectively in a world that has tilted perilously off its axis.
This book provides an extraordinary new parenting paradigm while sharing the author’s inspiring personal story, one that will ignite possibility in the hearts and minds of readers everywhere. Without a doubt, this book stands to change the trajectory of humanity.
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Praise from Experts and Practitioners
This book is a full-body truth bomb; raw, hilarious, confronting, and deeply liberating. Jacqlin’s voice is quirky, unapologetic, and completely on point, cutting through parenting bullshit with compassion, courage, and hard-won wisdom. You won’t read this book and stay the same. It will crack you open, make you laugh out loud, and invite you to parent (and live) with far more honesty, grace, and humanity.
Jacqlin Richards believes the path to empowered, connected parenting lies in self-awareness and the courage to embrace imperfection. By focusing on personal growth and authentic connection, parents can break generational cycles and raise resilient, self-aware children. This book offers a practical, humorous, and deeply human roadmap for this journey.
Jacqlin has written a brave and important book for parents who know there has to be another way. I wish this book had existed when I was raising my daughters.
Jacqlin’s story holds a mirror to the journey of reparenting ourselves. Tender, raw, wise, and full of truth, her writing cuts right to the heart of our humanness. It’s humanity’s story.
Everyone needs to read this book.
In over 25 years working with families, I have learned that lasting change never starts with the child. It starts with the parent, and that is exactly where Jacqlin Richards begins. Real, raw, and refreshingly honest, this book reminds us that parenting was never meant to be perfect. With humor and lived experience, she shows how the patterns we inherited shape the way we raise our kids, and offers something far more powerful than perfection: when we heal and grow, our children do too.
This book is courageous, compassionate, and provokes ongoing curiosity about why we parent the way we do. Jacqlin gives us actionable tools to apply, like the RAS Reset and the choice to focus differently, because the things we choose to highlight with our focus literally become part of our child’s internal programming. As a mother of three teenagers, I appreciated the stories, scenarios, and the loving reminder that the problem isn’t the children; it’s the continuation of what’s unresolved in us as parents.
What readers are saying
For any parent tired of being told to optimise, schedule and gentle-parent their way to flawlessness, this book is a deep breath.
Funny where it needs to be, unflinching where it counts.
Not a manual. A companion, for the messy, real, unglamorous work of raising kids while also trying to get through the week.
This is not a book about perfect parenting or trying harder; it is an invitation to understand the patterns, conditioning and survival responses that shape how we show up with our children.
Jacqlin brings honesty, wisdom and humour to a conversation many parents need.
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I saw myself in you and your journey, leaving me wanting to know more and knowing that the following chapters would give me what I’ve always been looking for:
The scaffolding to let go of how society wants me to be and be the mother my soul is calling me forward to be.
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About Jacqlin Richards
Parenting Alchemist, speaker, award-winning educator, mother of two boys, author of the International #1 bestselling book F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour and founder of the Resourced Parenting Method™.
Her work helps parents stop parenting from survival, guilt, shame, fear, and old conditioning — and begin leading their families with truth, presence, capacity, connection, and play.
2026 International #1 Bestselling Author
Amazon Australia #1 in Three Categories.
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World – Adult Education & Training.
2026 NZ Small Business Awards Finalist
Excellence in Storytelling
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World - Adult Education & Training.
Frequently Asked Questions
My kids are older. Is this book still for me?
Yes. Parenting is the long game. You do not stop being a parent when your child becomes a teenager, a young adult, or even a fully grown adult. This book helps you understand the patterns, reactions, expectations, and unconscious beliefs that shaped how you parented — and how you can relate, repair, and show up differently from here.
What if I feel like I’ve already f*cked up my kids?
Then this book is especially for you. The point is not to go back and do it perfectly. None of us can. The point is to stop drowning in shame and start meeting the truth with responsibility, grace, humour, and the willingness to repair.
Is it too late to change my relationship with my child?
No. It is never too late to bring more honesty, humility, ownership, and connection into a relationship. It may not happen overnight, and it may not look exactly how you imagined, but the way you show up now still matters.
What if my adult child is distant or estranged?
This book will not give you a script to force a relationship. It will help you look at what may be underneath the disconnection — control, expectation, hurt, shame, protection, resentment, or old patterns — and begin relating from a more honest and responsible place.
Is this book only for parents with young children?
No. This book is for parents at every stage, and for anyone who has ever been parented. It speaks to the patterns we inherit, the wounds we carry, the reactions we repeat, and the possibility of changing what happens next.
Is this a parenting strategy book?
Not in the traditional sense. This is not another book of scripts, hacks, or quick fixes. It goes underneath behaviour and asks what is driving the parent in the first place.
Will this make me feel worse about my parenting?
No. This book is honest, raw, and confronting, but it is not here to bury parents in shame. It is about responsibility without shame — seeing clearly enough to change without making yourself bad for being human.
Is this book for fathers too?
Yes. Jacqlin writes from her lived experience as a mother, but the work is for mothers, fathers, caregivers, grandparents, and anyone who wants to understand parenting and being parented differently.
What if I had a difficult childhood?
This book was written for that conversation. It explores how our early experiences shape the way we relate, react, protect, control, disconnect, and parent. It is not about blaming your parents. It is about understanding what shaped you so you can stop unconsciously repeating it.
Will there be workshops with the book?
Yes. The book comes with a free six-part live workshop series. Each session is 60 minutes. Buy the book and you are registered automatically. Already have the book, or want to experience the live series first? You can register on its own. Replays are included. There are six sessions and nothing else: no finale, no winners webinar, no giveaway.
About Jacqlin Richards
Parenting Alchemist, speaker, award-winning educator, mother of two boys, author of the International #1 bestselling book F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour and founder of the Resourced Parenting Method™.
Her work helps parents stop parenting from survival, guilt, shame, fear, and old conditioning — and begin leading their families with truth, presence, capacity, connection, and play.
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World – Adult Education & Training.
2026 International #1 Bestselling Author
Amazon Australia #1 in Three Categories.
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World - Adult Education & Training.
2026 New Zealand Small Business Awards Finalist
Excellence in Storytelling
About Jacqlin Richards
Jacqlin Richards is a Parenting Alchemist, speaker, award-winning educator, mother of two boys, author of Fuck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour, and creator of The Resourced Parenting Method™.
Her work helps parents stop parenting from survival, guilt, shame, fear, and old conditioning — and begin leading their families with truth, presence, capacity, connection, and play.
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World – Adult Education & Training.
2025 Gold Award Winner
Women Changing the World - Adult Education & Training.
Frequently Asked Questions
My kids are older. Is this book still for me?
Yes. Parenting is the long game. You do not stop being a parent when your child becomes a teenager, a young adult, or even a fully grown adult. This book helps you understand the patterns, reactions, expectations, and unconscious beliefs that shaped how you parented — and how you can relate, repair, and show up differently from here.
What if I feel like I’ve already f*cked up my kids?
Then this book is especially for you. The point is not to go back and do it perfectly. None of us can. The point is to stop drowning in shame and start meeting the truth with responsibility, grace, humour, and the willingness to repair.
Is it too late to change my relationship with my child?
No. It is never too late to bring more honesty, humility, ownership, and connection into a relationship. It may not happen overnight, and it may not look exactly how you imagined, but the way you show up now still matters.
What if my adult child is distant or estranged?
This book will not give you a script to force a relationship. It will help you look at what may be underneath the disconnection — control, expectation, hurt, shame, protection, resentment, or old patterns — and begin relating from a more honest and responsible place.
Is this book only for parents with young children?
No. This book is for parents at every stage, and for anyone who has ever been parented. It speaks to the patterns we inherit, the wounds we carry, the reactions we repeat, and the possibility of changing what happens next.
Is this a parenting strategy book?
Not in the traditional sense. This is not another book of scripts, hacks, or quick fixes. It goes underneath behaviour and asks what is driving the parent in the first place.
Will this make me feel worse about my parenting?
No. This book is honest, raw, and confronting, but it is not here to bury parents in shame. It is about responsibility without shame — seeing clearly enough to change without making yourself bad for being human.
Is this book for fathers too?
Yes. Jacqlin writes from her lived experience as a mother, but the work is for mothers, fathers, caregivers, grandparents, and anyone who wants to understand parenting and being parented differently.
What if I had a difficult childhood?
This book was written for that conversation. It explores how our early experiences shape the way we relate, react, protect, control, disconnect, and parent. It is not about blaming your parents. It is about understanding what shaped you so you can stop unconsciously repeating it.
Will there be workshops with the book?
Yes. The book comes with a free six-part live workshop series. Each session is 60 minutes. Buy the book and you are registered automatically. Already have the book, or want to experience the live series first? You can register on its own. Replays are included. There are six sessions and nothing else: no finale, no winners webinar, no giveaway.
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