The Parenting Alchemist
Stop trying to parent perfectly.
Start parenting differently.
For parents who deeply love their kids, are determined to do things differently, and still find themselves reacting in ways they swore they never would.
Hi, I'm Jacqlin.
I'm a Parenting Alchemist, speaker, mother of two boys, founder of the Resourced Parenting Method™, and author of F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour: The Truth About Parenting.
I work with parents who love their children fiercely, want to break the patterns they inherited, and are exhausted from still losing their shit in moments they thought they should be able to handle better by now.
Because the truth is, parenting is not about managing your child's behaviour.
It is about understanding what gets activated in you.
The fear. The guilt. The control. The shutdown. The need to fix, rescue, protect, prove, explain or get it right.
It is about seeing where those reactions came from, what you learnt love, safety and belonging were supposed to look like, and what you are still carrying from your own childhood.
And then learning how to meet yourself, your child and the messy moments differently.
With honesty. With repair. With capacity.
And yes, with grace and humour, because if we cannot laugh at the glorious, heartbreaking, ridiculous mess of being human, we are most likely going to drown in shame.
I am not here to help you become a perfect parent.
I am here to help you become a more honest, present, resourced and resilient one.
Here's the heart of the work.
Capacity changes everything.
You can know what kind of parent you want to be and still not be able to access that parent when you are exhausted, triggered, overwhelmed or afraid. That is not because you are broken. It is because awareness and capacity are not the same thing.
Your child does not need a parent who never gets it wrong. They need a parent who is willing to see what is really happening beneath the reaction, repair what needs repairing, and stop passing down patterns unconsciously.
This work is about more than parenting strategies. It is about becoming resourced enough to respond differently in the moments that matter most.
This is bigger than behaviour.
I am building a parenting movement for the parents who know there has to be another way. A way that helps us raise emotionally regulated, resourced and resilient humans. Kids who do not need the world to change before they can be okay. Kids who become so steady within themselves that they can meet life, speak truth, make mistakes, repair, grow and eventually change the world around them.
But that does not begin with controlling them. It begins with understanding ourselves.
Because resilient kids are not raised by perfect parents. They are raised by parents willing to build capacity, tell the truth, repair the rupture and stop parenting from old pain.
Start where you are.
Whether you are here for the book, the workshops, the method or a conversation, this work begins with one simple truth: your parenting changes when you do.
The Book
F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour
A raw, confronting and deeply human book for parents who are ready to stop chasing perfect parenting and start understanding what is actually happening beneath their reactions. This is not another rulebook. It is an invitation to stop parenting from your past and start meeting your child from the present.
Preorder the BookLive Workshop Series
The book opens the door. The workshops help you live the work. This free six-part live series (7 to 18 September) supports parents to recognise their patterns, understand their reactions, and build the capacity to parent differently in the moments that actually matter. Register free on its own, or preorder the book and you are automatically in.
Explore the WorkshopsResourced Parenting Method™
The missing piece isn't more parenting advice. It's becoming the kind of parent who can actually use it.
The Resourced Parenting Method™ bridges the gap between knowing what to do and actually being able to do it when your child is melting down, pushing your buttons or life feels overwhelming.
Because awareness is not the same as capacity.
When you become more resourced, you stop parenting from survival and start responding from intention, connection and choice.
Explore the MethodMedia & Speaking
Jacqlin Richards is an award-winning educator, author and speaker bringing a bold, deeply needed conversation to parenting, relationships and the way we shape future generations. Available for podcasts, interviews, panels, workshops and keynote conversations.
Media & Speaking EnquiriesFeatured. Awarded. Speaking a truth parents are ready for.
Jacqlin's work brings together raw lived experience, deep personal responsibility, emotional honesty and a practical framework for raising more resourced, resilient humans.
This book is not about perfect parenting. It is about becoming a more conscious, resourced, and truthful human being, so our children inherit more freedom than fear.
Jacqlin Richards has made a bold and important contribution to the parenting conversation.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary
New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and The Parenting Map
When a parent changes the place they are parenting from, the child receives a different world. That is the quiet revolution inside this book.
This book has dirt under its fingernails. It has tears in it. It has laughter in it. It has the quality of someone who has entered her own fire and returned with something useful.
Mark Falzon
Founder of MAD (Make A Difference), author of the foreword
As featured in & recognised by
Recent media
Seven Sharp · TVNZ
School holiday stress: it is not your kids, it is you
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Good Magazine
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Capsule · Pretty Interesting
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The parenting book you did not know you needed.
F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour: The Truth About Parenting
Most parenting books tell you how to handle your child. This book asks you to understand yourself.
It is for parents who are self-aware, emotionally invested, determined to do things differently, and still find themselves reacting, controlling, yelling, withdrawing, rescuing or getting pulled into the same painful patterns.
This is not another parenting rulebook. It is a truth-telling, pattern-breaking, deeply human invitation to stop parenting from your past and start building something different with your child.
The book opens the door.
The workshops help you walk through it.
Reading the book will give you language, awareness and truth. But awareness alone is not always enough.
The live workshop series is where we take the ideas from the book and bring them into real parenting moments: the reactions, the guilt, the fear, the rescuing, the controlling, the shutdown, the repair. This is where you begin building the capacity to parent differently when it actually counts.
Disrupting Your Hidden Parenting Patterns
A free 6-part live series, 7 to 18 September, 11am NZT, for parents who are done reacting and repeating the same patterns. Replays included.
You're Parenting from the Past
And your kids are paying for it.
The Addiction to Being Needed
Why rescuing feels like love, and isn't.
Stop Giving Your Power Away
Victim parenting and the illusion of control.
The Addiction to Control
Nothing is broken. Not them. Not you.
Don't Lose Yourself Raising Them
End the self-abandonment.
Raise Them in Possibility, Not Fear
Parent from possibility, not fear.
The full six-part series is free. Register on its own, or preorder the book and you are automatically registered for every session, with replays included.
Register Free for the WorkshopsWhat people are saying.
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This book could easily be called Parenting By Magic. It's about breaking free of the uphill battle that is the old, stuck, unimaginative, mechanical paradigm of controlling behaviour - your own and your children's. It invites you to be guided by the wisdom of your heart in serving the highest good and potential of everyone in the family.
Jacqlin Richards is one of the most conscious and dedicated educators I've ever met. If you let her guide you on this journey, your life will change, and the people you love will feel the difference.
William Whitecloud
Author of The Magician's Way and founder of Natural Success
Jacqlin Richards forges into exciting new territory with F_ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour, a trailblazing book that invites parents to understand themselves better so they can support their children more effectively in a world that has tilted perilously off its axis.
This book provides an extraordinary new parenting paradigm while sharing the author's inspiring personal story, one that will ignite possibility in the hearts and minds of readers everywhere. Without a doubt, this book stands to change the trajectory of humanity.
Susan Crossman
Best-selling author, author coach and editor
In over 25 years working with families, I have learned that lasting change never starts with the child. It starts with the parent, and that is exactly where Jacqlin Richards begins. Real, raw, and refreshingly honest, this book reminds us that parenting was never meant to be perfect. With humor and lived experience, she shows how the patterns we inherited shape the way we raise our kids, and offers something far more powerful than perfection: when we heal and grow, our children do too.
Veenu Keller
Author, The Parent Child Whisperer®
This book is a full-body truth bomb; raw, hilarious, confronting, and deeply liberating. Jacqlin's voice is quirky, unapologetic, and completely on point, cutting through parenting bullshit with compassion, courage, and hard-won wisdom. You won't read this book and stay the same. It will crack you open, make you laugh out loud, and invite you to parent (and live) with far more honesty, grace, and humanity.
Karen Tui Boyes
Author, speaker and Educational Alchemist
Jacqlin Richards believes the path to empowered, connected parenting lies in self-awareness and the courage to embrace imperfection. By focusing on personal growth and authentic connection, parents can break generational cycles and raise resilient, self-aware children. This book offers a practical, humorous, and deeply human roadmap for this journey.
Karen Campbell
Child Behaviour Specialist
Jacqlin has written a brave and important book for parents who know there has to be another way. I wish this book had existed when I was raising my daughters.
Becky Norwood
Spotlight Publishing House
Jacqlin's story holds a mirror to the journey of reparenting ourselves. Tender, raw, wise, and full of truth, her writing cuts right to the heart of our humanness. It's humanity's story.
Everyone needs to read this book.
Lisa Jeffrey
Health and Wellness Facilitator and founder of Sanctuary Retreat
Real parents. Real breakthroughs.
Written words are one thing. Watch parents describe, in their own words, what shifted when they did this work.
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Sarah
Breakthrough session
Stefanie
Breakthrough session
Jo
Coaching Client
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Coaching Client
Karen Boyes
Coaching Client
Lee
Coaching Client
Dan Power
Coaching Client
In person · Auckland
Official Auckland Book Launch Lunch
Thursday 27 August · Non Solo Pizza, Parnell
Join me to celebrate the launch of F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour. Hear the stories behind the book, enjoy an author conversation and Q&A, connect with other parents, and celebrate the beginning of this movement.
Ticket options will include lunch only, or lunch with a signed copy of the book.
Ready to stop trying to parent perfectly?
You do not need more guilt. You do not need another impossible standard. You need a different way of understanding what is happening, in you, in your child, and in the space between you.
Start with the book. Join the community. Parent differently.